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Adriana Lima, advice, ask the femme, bisexual, Bra, BRas, Dating, femme, gel bra, Padded bras, Push-up bras, Queer, relationships, Shakespeare, Victoria's Secret, water bra
Yeah, those are way too sexy to be real.
I’m a big believer in the power of a great bra. Push-up or padded, if you got ’em you might as well make them look great right?! I was recently informed that not everyone thinks this way. Some of you, apparently, are disappointed when you whip out your best “one handed bra unsnap” trick and…then…they’re smaller than advertised. Like, way smaller. Is that really so awful? You’re still going to sleep with a hot chick and her boobs are still hawt! So suck it up! And when I say “suck it up” I’m not just talking to my homogrrls, I’m including straight men in this too.
It could be worse, you could be a straight chick who has to deal with the “unveiling.” Straight/bi ladies, you know what I’m talkin’ about. Gold stars-just go about your business and don’t worry about it.
Straight women have even LESS of an idea of what they are getting into and it has the potential to be a lot worse. Scary worse.
Anywho, let’s get to the question from a girl who loves to push ’em up.
Hi Femme,
I recently bought a bra that has gel filled inserts. It makes my A-cup boobies look incredible. It’s become my standard date bra. I’ve been out with this girl I like four times and the last time, we had a really hot makeout sesh at my place. While we were kissing she tried to feel up my boobs but I had to put the kibosh on it (I didn’t want her to realize my boobs felt like tiny water balloons) and she went home soon after.She hasn’t called in 2 days and I’m flipping out. I liked her a lot, but what if she thinks I’m not into her anymore? What if we do see each other again and I take my bra off and she realizes I’m not as well endowed as I led her to believe? Should I just toss the bra and the girl and start over?
ABC
Hi ABC,
Thanks for writing in! Oh gosh, don’t throw away the girl or the bra! Look, it’s not dishonest to make the most of your assets. Dating is frequently about selling yourself to the other person, it would be nice if looks didn’t figure into the equation but they do, at least in the beginning. However, you’ve been on four dates with this chick and she probably likes you for your personality too.
Amazing at any size, amirite?!
Plenty of girls wear padded or push-up bras, just ask anyone who’s accidentally brushed up against me at a bar. it’s a great alternative to breast implants and it’s an easy confidence booster. You are not alone. I believe it was Chilly of TLC that said, “Don’t get implants, just push ‘em up!” It was either her, or Shakespeare. I forget which one.
Anyway call your girl, ask her out on a date for a weekend night so she knows you like her enough to spend a precious weekend night with her. If you two get down and dirty after your date, just take the bra off like it’s no big deal. If you treat it like it ain’t no thang, she won’t think anything of it. She’s probably seen her share of padding in her life. If you make the mistake of being dramatic about it, she might think you are crazy. Remember, chances are she’s giving her ladies a little boost too.
Good luck ABC! Let us know how it goes.
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Push-up bras rock and deserve to be ranked (ahem) right up there with the advent of fire and the wheel. Photoshopping oneself to infinity and beyond and then resembling a garden gnome in person is how I define false advertising.
Ooo good point…I think I have some photoshopping to do…
I really enjoyed this blog, Natasia. It was fun, funny, well written and helpful. It’s the whole package I want, meaning the whole woman. So if she wants to push em up, more power to her. 🙂
So glad you enjoyed! Xoxo
I’m going to have to disagree a little here. I’m a femme lesbian, and I say work with what you’ve got. It’s one thing to help them sit up a little, but it’s another to advertise Cs when you’ve got Bs. Mostly it’s just not necessary. For me, it’s more a matter of what it says to me when a woman is wearing a bra that’s more filled with fabric and filler than flesh. Be proud of who you are and what you have. I love them all. Small ones, big ones–breasts are beautiful, period. It is a little bit of a turn off when I go to round second base and I find myself cupping something squishy or padded rather than a breast. Women with smaller breasts can wear low-cut shirts without looking sleazy, they can show that sexy skin between the breasts that is intoxicating, and quite elegant. Bigger isn’t better–it’s just different. So push them up a little, but leave out the gel inserts. You don’t need them, gorgeous!
PLBND,
GreyGirl
Great insight!
I especially feel that it’s a-okay, because WHAT THE HELL?! We’re all women. We KNOW what it’s like. We KNOW what’s out there. We know what can be expected. We know the possibilities. *shrugs* It’s really no big deal.
Yeah! It’s like almost all of us do it, so let’s all get on board with it not being a dealbreaker.
Speaking as a small 32B cup, I can say I did have a few moments waaaay back in High School when I didn’t feel as sexy as some of my more well developed classmates. Back then I might have been tempted to “augment” things a bit… but these days I’m more comfortable with my own self and never give it much of a thought. Luckily my sweetheart seems to like my breasts just fine as they are….. at least I figure she does by the attention she gives them when we’re fooling about.
But… as somebody who likes playing “dress-up” now and again…. I can’t really say that the push-up doesn’t have it’s place for a bit of fun now and again when you might want to shake things up image-wise. As long as it’s all in fun, hey… why not. 😉
I agree! An image shake up is always fun 😉 oh and I’m glad you left your girls as is. 32 b…your Gf is a lucky lady!
GREAT blog 🙂 i love push ups. 😛
Haha, “unveilings” come in the push-up assortment too, right? And with the ever-so-sexy false advertising slogans.
That Shakespeare had quite a way with words, didn’t he? I have to stuff an A cup to take the wrinkles out. I gave up being upset about it a long time ago, but let’s face it. It’s not really workin for a Samba either. Push em up, push em out, and shake em. 🙂
Yes! Ladies do u hear that? Shake em! Especially if I’m in the room. 😉
I love push-up bras!! Great post! Oh it’s only false advertising when you show a pic that isn’t of your current state.
I love them too! & I agree. Outdated pics are shady
I love them also, and I am definitely in agreement about the outdated pics!!!!
Almost every girl I know, including the large breasted ones, wear padded bras! I think it’s great because you don’t want anyone to see your nipples through your shirt, and of course because it makes you look more well endowed 😉 I think that there are different levels of padding available, like I know Victoria’s Secret has the Bombshell Bra, which adds 2 cup sizes, but they also have more modest padding that just makes you look slighly fuller. The Bombshell bra is a little crazy for me so I don’t wear it, but it make’s my friend’s natural c cups look like amazing double dds!
Yes! I can’t believe I didn’t bring up the nip issue, but some padding will def keep that situation at bay. I’ve tried on those bombshell bras, but they were so big my clothes couldn’t fit on over it! That’s padding gone too far.
I just like what’s in the bras…
Ditto! 🙂
For me personally, having 2 Ds (my friends and I refer to bra sizes as grades don’t judge us) on my report card is enough, a push up bra on women with large boobs isn’t cute to me. I don’t mind women wanting them to sit up a little but if your bra is shoving them into your neck… eww. Sit them up, don’t make them look like mole hills when they’re just ant hills.
I don’t judge! And I also disapprove of neck boobs. I think Neck Boob disease needs to be stopped.
I honestly can’t STAND bras! One time I went to a lingerie store to find a bra that would maybe make it look as if I had a bit of a cleavage.. oh was I embarrassed when none of their super push up bras did the magic work it was supposed to..
Umm…then what do you wear? Never mind. I probably shouldn’t know 😉
some dresses you just need a p.u.bra to pull off, great post (:
Thanks! I also like to whip out the push-up when I want to call attention away from a bad hair day!
I remember that quote from “Hamlet.” Or was it “Macbeth”? I always get those two confused.
Hamlet, I believe Ophelia was a big fan of padding.