I Love Being a Lesbian: Body Acceptance Edition

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Pride month is halfway over and I thought I’d take this opportunity to write about one of the things I love most about being gay.

Umm besides the hot, hot lesbian sex, of course

I love the acceptance of the queer community of all kinds of looks. Straight woman have a very strict standard of beauty they have to adhere too. They can either be hot like Britney Spears hot or like Megan Fox hot. Society, parents and boyfriends constantly scream at them to be thinner, younger, whiter, blonder. This is what I call being “conventionally attractive.”

You can be the one on the right, or you can be the one on the left.

I’m not saying that lesbians don’t suffer from that kind of pressure or that we are perfect. But the truth is, we have a much more diverse standard of beauty than mainstream society. Conventional beauty is great, but unconventional beauty needs to be appreciated too, and in our community it is. No matter what your  look is I promise you are going to be able to find a girl that’s crazy into it. Lesbians are into a rainbow of different looks. Like, gay girls go crazy for the uber-curvy out rocker Beth Ditto, who would probably never be featured inPlayboy.

Go on with your bad self, girl!

We celebrate all backgrounds

We line up to make out with girls with piercings

We love women who smash gender conventions

Ink? Yes, please

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Your look is the outer manifestation of who you are on the inside. It’s the face you choose to show the world and that’s why there are so many magazine, TV shows and books devoted to looks. Finding acceptance in this world is so hard. Queer girls all know that hot women come in all colors, shapes and sizes. No matter what you look like, you can be sure that you will find a sexy lid for your sexy pot. And I am so proud to be a part of that.

Glittery Glazes: Spring 2012 Nail Polish Trend

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Angel Food, Beauty, Bling, China Glaze, Effie Trinket, Essie, Fashion, Glitter, nail polish, nails, OPI, sparkle, spring 2012, The Capitol, The Hunger Games, top coat, trends, Zoya

Colors of the Capitol: Luxe & Lush by China Glaze. Image via http://www.amazon.com

Happy Friday, lovelies! I’m feeling kinda girly today. So let’s get serious, let’s talk nail polish.Bright colors, glimmer and shine are in for nails this season. I love anything that sparkles and more brands then ever are offering ways for you to bring the bling. China Glaze released a line of nail polishes inspired by The Hunger Games. If you want to go full on diva, Effie Trinket style, coat your nails in Luxe and Lush.

Essie and Zoya are offering sparkling top coats to provide a more demure, transparent look. Zoya offers a green topcoat, green being one of this season’s break out colors. But I prefer Chloe, a pretty, sparkly pink. Because I’m a professional lady, I wanted to find a way to rock this trend while still looking like an adult. I settled on the Pearl Pearlification topcoat by Essie.

Pure Pearlification by Essie

I plan on layering this over a more neutral hue like the classic Angel Food or OPI’s Planks a Lot. Any color that won’t steal the spotlight from the topcoat will work.

Are you planning on rocking glittery nail this spring?

Planks a Lot and Angel Food

Blush For Eco-Concious Women Who Don’t Get Blush

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activism, animal testing, Beauty, Blush, charity, cruise, eco concious, girly, giving back, lbq, lesbians, Makeup, Queer, rainforest, superbowl, superbowl sunday, sweet, sweet cruises, tarte, volunteer, volunteering

Image via http://www.tartecosmetics.com

It’s Superbowl Sunday and TV is all in repeats, but it’s on and poppin’ at Hot Femme! Let’s keep girly weekend going. I’m clueless when it comes to blush. My previous attempts at blush have ended with me looking like an extra on Dallas. But, I found one ladies!

I’m in love with Tarte cheek stain, ‘tipsy’ is the color that looks the best on me. I try to keep my make-up subtle and ‘tipsy’ adds a subtle flush without making it look like I pile on my make-up every morning. It’s also incredibly easy to apply, just swipe right under the apples of your cheeks and up your cheekbone. Use your fingertips to blend up and voila, you’re all done.

Tarte cheek stains are also alcohol and oil free. It’s also a great choice for queer women because the company is pretty socially conscious. I know what you’re thinking “queer women aren’t more into saving the world than any other group of women! That’s a stereotype. Okay, we have a whole cruise line dedicated to LBQ women who want to go on cruises and save the world. Straight people don’t have that. Just sayin’

Do you have extra vacation days? Me too! Let's save the world and drink heavily! It's the lesbian way.

Tarte doesn’t test their products on animals, they use recycled casing materials and they are totally trying to save rainforests and junk.

What’s your fav blush? Share in the comments!

Mascara: It’s Complicated

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It’s Superbowl weekend! Exciting! Right? Okay, I’m sooo not a huge sports fan. In fact…I don’t enjoy any type of sport at all. Soooo this weekend, Hot Femme is having a girls weekend in with some yummy posts about makeup. It doesn’t get girlier than that!

I have a confession, I have short eyelashes. I can’t go a day without beauty companies promising me that their mascara will give me the long, voluminous lashes of my dreams. Yeah, it’s not happening without photoshop.

There are so many choices; do you want the doll look? Crazy colors? Curling? Waterproof? Non-clumping? Do you want a comb mascara brush or a curved bristle brush? I don’t offing know, to be honest. The long standing staple of mascara has been Maybelline Great Lash mascara. The pink bottle, the green top, you can’t go wrong with a classic.

I used to layer Victoria Secret’s mascara with Maybelline Great Lash to give me the illusion of lashes. Buuut I just switched to Sephora Fiberwig mascara and I kind of like it.

Image via http://www.ehow.com

It’s pricey at 24$ a tube, but it’s worth it for a one swipe experience in the morning. I really only recommend it if your like me and your lashes need an extra (extra) boost. If you have naturally long lashes, skip the Fiberwig, it’s harder to get off and more expensive.

My cousin, who’s lashes always look great, layers TooFaced Lashgasm with Neutrogena Healthy Volume. For that special mix of boutique and drugstore brands, which is a good way to get great lashes without breaking your bank.

What kind of mascara do you use? Do you have any tips?

How Do You Wear Your Hair Down There?

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Beauty, bikini, grooming, grrl, landing strip, lesbian, LGBT, Queer, sexy, shave, vajazzle, waxing

Let's get a little bit naughty

All this talk of merkins around here is making me hungry! Oh wait, no it’s not. It’s making me think of downstairs’ hairstyles. I was chatting with a pretty 26 year old blond queer chick who told me that she used to get a brazilian, but now that she’s older, she leaves a strip.

Which led me to wonder, Sex and the City style, does leaving a strip make you seem more grown up then going all bare?

There are a few reasons why women wax, some of us do it for ourselves and others do it for their partners. I do it because I’m too lazy to shave or trim or whatever. I go in once every two months, get a completely bare brazilian and proceed to forget about any type of upkeep until I have to go back in. (That’s what she said)  Upon further introspection, I guess that is kind of immature. But it’s also a reflection of a busy lifestyle. My brazilian says that I have places to go and things to do and I can’t be bothered with trimming!

Ahem.

Anywho, I’ve also been thinking about other ‘hairstyles’ and what this says about the women who rock them.

Landing Strip: You’re a career oriented woman and you have your ish together. You know exactly where your clit is and you’re willing to endure the pain it takes to point your partner directly to that spot. I like the way you get down to business, girl.

What do YOU think is going on in there?

Bikini Wax: You’re a traditional and practical gal. This style is the least amount of pain while still keeping you neat and tidy when it’s beach season. Let’s start a book club together.

Shapes/Vajazzling: You love your boyfriend. ZOMG you love him so much and you can’t wait to see the look on his face when he realizes you got his initials waxed onto your vaj! P.s. Happy 19th birthday.

Shaving: You dislike pain and don’t see the point of spending money on waxing. You host a lot of potlucks, which is a great way to meet more women.

Au Natural: You enjoy free love and possibly the smell of patchouli. If you invite me to your spring harvest celebration, I’ll go. I promise.

…So…if you’re brave enough, tell me how you like your hair down there or how you prefer your girl to wear it, in the comments!

The One That’s Kind of Serious: Heartbreak

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art, Beauty, Etta James, heartbreak, I'd rather go blind, lost love, music

Etta James has passed away. Her songs remind me that artists can take the pain in life and turn it into something universal; something that can connect millions of people for decades. Etta frequently sang of romance gone bad. Lost love is a horrible feeling, but the upside is the art that can come out of it. “I’d Rather Go Blind” makes me think of all the heartbreak the world has seen. We all have ‘the one that got away’ or ‘the one that never was’ or ‘a rough patch’ in a long term relationship. It’s a human experience that binds us, regardless of nationality or sexuality. Etta showed the beauty that grows from pain. That life is beautiful because it is ephemeral.

I hope you enjoy this song as much as I do.

Summer Beauty Trend: The Eyes Aquatic

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Aqua, Beauty, Blue, Eyeliner, Eyeshadow, Fashion, femme, Green, MAC, Makeup, Summer, Urban Decay

Summer has finally hit NYC this week and women are donning their summer dresses and trying out new looks. The hottest trend? A Blue/Green eye. Not like, 80’s blue where you pile frosty shadow from your lashline to your eyebrow. Here are some tips on how to rock this trend right.

Air Guitar by Urban Decay

Blue Glitter Eyeliner

A little of this goes a looong way. Find a blue glitter eyeliner, such as Air Guitar from Urban Decay and draw a very thin line from the top inner corner

of your eye and sweep out. Don’t wear shadow with this look and don’t make the line

too thick. This will overpower the liner and make you look like a crazed mermaid.

Green Eye Shadow

There is something incredibly fun about painting your lids in a color that’s as bold as vibrant green. MAC just released a collection of shadows called “Surf, Baby!” These limited edition shadows are perfect for the summer. Start by applying a sheer, shimmery light gold to your entire lid. Be sure to highlight your inner eye and browbone for some drama. I recommend using “Short Shorts” for this step. Then take a green like “Surf USA” and sweep out from the middle of your eyelid and just beyond the outer corners. Work some of the shadow up to the crease and blend so that you don’t have a hard division of the two colors. For a nighttime look, add a thin line of black eyeliner and tons of mascara.

Surf USA by MAC

Once you are all pretty, go out and find yourself a girl. Good luck, ladies!